Big things start small In 1170, King Henry II of England, fed up with his former BFF Thomas Becket (who started criticizing the Crown after becoming Archbishop of Canterbury), declared “Will no one rid me of this turbulent priest?” …

Your Rage is a Commodity You do not love all humankind. This is a fact. It’s written into your biology. There is a limit, coded into the size and structure of your brain, on the number of people you can form close, personal connections to, or even remember as individuals…

It might be higher than you think — Every month, almost three billion people use Facebook. Those people upload photos and video and it all gets saved — about 4 petabytes, four billion gigabytes, of data every day. Those are abstract numbers. What does it mean? How Does Facebook not run out of space? Exactly how you think…

You know, that book written by a dude who isn’t me, though I feel I shouldn’t need to say this — Gather ’round, everyone, and let me tell you a story. It’s a story full of pornography, intrigue, rumor, innuendo, misplaced credit for a massive book, and kinky sex. Let’s go back to February of 2022, when British author and former BBC correspondent Jonathan Kent published a book on non-monogamy called…

And how having sex you don’t like can change your attitude — I am not a masochist. You might be forgiven for snickering a bit at that, if you’ve seen the sort of sex I have. I have at various times been spanked, flogged, caned, cropped, zapped with electricity, and used as a human pincushion by my lovers. …

On toxic behavior in the polyamory community — There’s a polyamory conference in London. It’s called PolyDay, it was founded in 2004, it’s non-profit, and it became one of Britain’s most popular and successful poly events. PolyDay 2020 and 2021 were canceled due to Covid. In 2021, a woman who runs a site called “PolyPages” announced that since…

Yes, contraception is next I first posted this on Quora five years ago, when we lived in a very different world. Now that Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas has explicitly said that Griswold v Connecticut should be overturned on the same grounds the Supreme Court overturned Roe v Wade, and Mississippi governor Tate Reeves…

If people want a lot of partners, why do they cheat instead of being open? — “So tell me,” she said from across a huge basket of French fries, “would you ever cheat on your wife?” We were sitting in a midrange burger restaurant. I owned a small computer consulting company. The lovely woman across the table from me worked for one of my largest clients…

The Benefits of Embrace Carnality — The horniest night I’ve ever had took place on a steamy July evening in New Orleans. I was there with a lovely woman I met at an orgy in France in 2010, and immediately started crushing on. (I still have that crush to this day.) She learned about my crush…