If people want a lot of partners, why do they cheat instead of being open? — “So tell me,” she said from across a huge basket of French fries, “would you ever cheat on your wife?” We were sitting in a midrange burger restaurant. I owned a small computer consulting company. The lovely woman across the table from me worked for one of my largest clients…

The Benefits of Embrace Carnality — The horniest night I’ve ever had took place on a steamy July evening in New Orleans. I was there with a lovely woman I met at an orgy in France in 2010, and immediately started crushing on. (I still have that crush to this day.) She learned about my crush…

The contradictions and inconsistencies are a feature, not a bug — I’ve been thinking about the Capitol riots lately. I don’t mean “how could this happen?” (anyone who’s read even a little bit of history already knows the answer) or “what role did the former President play? (that answer is self-evident, and getting more so every day). No, that’s tedious, dreary…

Wow. I am…I’m speechless. Only a few days into my GoFundMe, you have donated more than five thousand dollars. Thank you all so very much. When I started out this week, I felt pretty hopeless. My former partner had filed a lawsuit, and filed to obtain the trademark for “More…

Who knew sex gets better when you think things through? — I could tell she was up to something. It was a simple enough question, I suppose. But there was something about the way she said it, some twinkle in her eye when she held up the can of whipped cream and said, “Hey Franklin, do you want some?” We were…

Sex Stuff as a Key to Understanding Human Nature — “C’mon, try it, it’ll be fun!” she said. “I dunno. I mean, I’m kinky and all, but don’t you think that’s…a little weird?” I said. I was in my 20s. We were standing in a sex dungeon in Atlanta, the first public dungeon I’d ever been in, watching people do…

And what a long, strange trip it’s been — I’ve never been in a monogamous relationship. I started early, from the time I figured out boys and girls are different. I took two dates to my high school senior prom, then, years later, I lost my virginity in a threesome. In the late 80s, when I started exploring romantic…

What comes after the sex? — I am a huge fan of group sex. I have been ever since the day I lost my virginity to my best friend’s girlfriend in an unexpected threesome on a waterbed with a broken heater. …

The Tea Metaphor is Good, But What if You Don’t Like Earl Grey? — I like tea. I also like sex. Occasionally, these two interests intersect. I have served tea at an orgy, and been served tea at a different orgy. Tea makes everything better. Tea as a metaphor for consent As a passionate fan of both tea and sex, I was delighted when a video using tea to explain…