It might be higher than you think — Every month, almost three billion people use Facebook. Those people upload photos and video and it all gets saved — about 4 petabytes, four billion gigabytes, of data every day. Those are abstract numbers. What does it mean? How Does Facebook not run out of space? Exactly how you think…

You know, that book written by a dude who isn’t me, though I feel I shouldn’t need to say this — Gather ’round, everyone, and let me tell you a story. It’s a story full of pornography, intrigue, rumor, innuendo, misplaced credit for a massive book, and kinky sex. Let’s go back to February of 2022, when British author and former BBC correspondent Jonathan Kent published a book on non-monogamy called…

And how having sex you don’t like can change your attitude — I am not a masochist. You might be forgiven for snickering a bit at that, if you’ve seen the sort of sex I have. I have at various times been spanked, flogged, caned, cropped, zapped with electricity, and used as a human pincushion by my lovers. …

On toxic behavior in the polyamory community — Many of you who read me regularly know that my abusive ex has been engaged in a long-running social media and legal campaign aimed at trying to claim sole ownership of the copyrights of books we wrote together, claim the trademark I started using six years before we met, and…

Yes, contraception is next I first posted this on Quora five years ago, when we lived in a very different world. Now that Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas has explicitly said that Griswold v Connecticut should be overturned on the same grounds the Supreme Court overturned Roe v Wade, and Mississippi governor Tate Reeves…

If people want a lot of partners, why do they cheat instead of being open? — “So tell me,” she said from across a huge basket of French fries, “would you ever cheat on your wife?” We were sitting in a midrange burger restaurant. I owned a small computer consulting company. The lovely woman across the table from me worked for one of my largest clients…

The Benefits of Embrace Carnality — The horniest night I’ve ever had took place on a steamy July evening in New Orleans. I was there with a lovely woman I met at an orgy in France in 2010, and immediately started crushing on. (I still have that crush to this day.) She learned about my crush…

The contradictions and inconsistencies are a feature, not a bug — I’ve been thinking about the Capitol riots lately. I don’t mean “how could this happen?” (anyone who’s read even a little bit of history already knows the answer) or “what role did the former President play? (that answer is self-evident, and getting more so every day). No, that’s tedious, dreary…

Wow. I am…I’m speechless. Only a few days into my GoFundMe, you have donated more than five thousand dollars. Thank you all so very much. When I started out this week, I felt pretty hopeless. My former partner had filed a lawsuit, and filed to obtain the trademark for “More…